Tasting of the four elements is becoming more popular at Black American celebrations
For many years we searched for cultural additions that can be added to the wedding ceremony, additions, that can add meaning, tradition, and fun. The planning can take months or even years why not add things that make it meaningful and steeped in tradition?
Make it your own
This tradition is routed in culture and can be a fun addition to the wedding ceremony
The tradition comes from the Yoruba people of West Africa, where couples are presented with four different flavors to represent different aspects of married life: sour, bitter, spicy, and sweet. While the items may vary, they are usually lemon (sour), vinegar or unsweetened chocolate (bitter), cayenne pepper or chili pepper (spicy), and honey or grapes (sweet).
How it's done
During the ceremony, the officiant explains the significance of each element to the guests as the couple experiences each taste together. "It’s a demonstrative way of promising to love each other through thick and thin, as in the vows 'for better or worse, for richer or poorer," The tradition reminds the couple that despite the fact that there will be highs and lows in their marriage, they should weather all things in unity and remain committed to each other.
Do Your Research
Unlike when we started years ago, one can now google search almost anything!
Take the time to learn about the traditions you add to the wedding and include an explanation of them so that your guest understand their importance and why you chose to incorporate them.
Did you add this element to your ceremony?
We would love to hear your story on how you incorporated this element into your wedding. Share your pictures and tell us why it was important to you. But most importantly, tell us how your guest responded and what feedback you received.